Feeling like some kind of way tonight. A Carrie Bradshaw kind of way in regards to how your significant other can reflect your soul and spirit; which got me thinking of a friend of mine. Tonight’s post is a fun post I haven’t done in quite some time. I used to write about relationships (more of an observation of other people) and things of that nature, but haven’t had the time to write anything of late. However, tonight I saw something that sealed my theory (more like common sense) of what I once told a friend of mine.
A male friend of mine once tried to date me, but I refused because there was absolutely no chemistry from my end and deep down I knew he was not a reflection of my soul. He is very good looking, but I saw that he was damaged emotionally and always chose the wrong type of women. I was not his type as he liked girls who wore glasses and were of mixed heritage. He said he liked my personality and that I was a “safe” choice. When he said “safe choice”, I knew deep down, there was still that glimmer of hope of a good part of him that knew he deserved someone who was normal. His past girlfriends were either in jail, had severe mental issues or tried to harm him physically. We would have long talk about why he chose them. I told him the type of women he is attracted to physically were not adding to his life in a positive way. During this time, he was a bit unkempt and seemed lost. I felt bad I could not contribute to his life in the way he deserved and needed, but how can you date someone who needs to work on himself and find purpose in his life? I declared myself as his “wing woman” to help him find a decent woman. I did say that he needs to work on himself and prioritize himself first. He was not happy to hear that as he was more interested in just having company despite how crazy the girl might be. He would get mad at me with my advice as it was only given to him because I cared about him as a friend and only wanted the best for him in regards for him to find his soulmate.
Fast forward 3 years and I think he might have found his soulmate. Saw a photo of him and his new girlfriend. She is absolutely beautiful! I am so happy for him! My friend looks refreshed, happy and well kept. She seems to have brought out the best in my friend. What is interesting is she is not his type either! She doesn’t wear glasses nor is of mixed heritage. Maybe he changed his type since then. I don’t know. She looks like an Instagram model, a nice one though. Not the cladily clothed type either. She dresses well and modest. Did my friend take those years to work on himself and reflect on why all those other girls didn’t work out for him? I always knew he was a kind person, sweet, talented, funny and overall a good guy, but the girls he dated stunted him of being the best he could be. It’s really amazing to see a friend’s journey of self discovery and seeing them coming out of a dark period of their life with a partner who might be “the one”. I’d like to think I may have contributed a tiny bit in all of this with all my advice (which he at the time didn’t want to hear). Nethertheless, I was very happy to see him happy. I could see life in his eyes and true happiness. I wish them both the best. As one of my favorite quotes goes: “Where there is life, there is hope and where there is hope, there is life“.
As for my son (who just turned 23) & I, we are planning and getting more excited about moving! We will be leaving Colorado and taking a huge leap of faith in another State. The town we want to move to this summer is so magical, beautiful & fun! There is no other place on planet earth I would want to move to. It’s got everything I have always wanted in a forever home. The funny thing is that I had wanted to go and visit all these cool places around this town and now all those “dream locations” are a few minutes or so away from me which I can visit as many times as I want! There are castles, rolling hills and gurgling rivers for a hopeless romantic as myself to explore. It’s like my dreams are coming true. I will be living my best life and I can’t wait to show everyone the surrounding places of where I live. I might even change my blog name as it will be a new chapter of my life and the best yet! Until my next post take care of yourself and each other.
Forever yours.
xoxo
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