Why Wednesday

Hello friends,

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I know for me, I am a writer. My thoughts come flowing out when I write, but sometimes I feel extremely vulnerable when it comes to verbally express my deepest feelings to someone. Sure, I’m a great conversationalist in person, but that doesn’t mean I go deep each time. In the past when I’ve expressed how I’ve felt in a calm and collected way to someone (I don’t believe in yelling or shouting to express ones feelings), be it a concern or anything in a negative situation, I’ve been met with anger. I began to wonder, “Why did they react like that? I just asked an innocent question. Why are they so angry?” You almost begin to doubt yourself. Was it my question? Did I hit a nerve? But I’ve learned, it’s not me, it’s them and their issues.

So next time, if someone comes up to you and opens up about something in their past life or anything that involves the both of you, just remember you have a choice of how to react to what they say. In a healthy friendship or relationship, the person listening is caring and puts forth the importance of the other person to come to a reasonable resolution.

But if you’re on the other end and you’re the one who is expressing your feelings and the person reacts negatively, just know it’s them, not you. They had a choice of how to react.

Stay strong. Never keep things inside. The people who truly love you will always listen and react in a positive way.

Until next time. xoxo

Cid.

I finally belong to you.

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I absolutely love this quote. I know I’m going to fall in love with Bermuda. I’ve been wanting to go this country for a majority of my life and it’s finally coming true. The color of the water on the beaches especially is what has been tantalizing me for years, being more vivid in my imagination and dreams. To me, Bermuda was always a touch of paradise of heaven as a child and I knew I would go there someday. Do you know what it’s like to dream something beautiful, a place, and then to actually stand there in person? It’s like dreaming of someone from your imagination or real life and then to see them a few feet away for the first time. Pretty unreal. Not that I would know. I would hope it was the same feeling. I always pictured my soul mate standing before me with tousled wind blown hair, barefoot with pants slightly rolled up and the most charming smile ever- meant just for me presenting me with an aquamarine stone surrounded by diamonds. He would then ask me that very important question. Sorry, I got carried away. I want to dig my feet in the sands of Bermuda and immerse myself completely in the waters, allowing the sun to caress my face with her warmth. I am, afterall, a beach girl and always will be. The ocean calls……

Pictures and posts coming soon of Bermuda. I will be visiting 3 other countries as well.

I’ll be reporting back from Bermuda, so stay tuned!

Lots of love to all of you!

JavaGirl aka Beach Girl

P.S. Here is one of my favorite blog posts which goes well with this post.

https://landofblogging.wordpress.com/2011/08/25/i-just-want-to-belong/

Motivational Monday

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What may look like not much to someone in how they would define “success”, is probably that person’s lifetime of determination. Whatever you are doing, just keep at it. Don’t give up. Don’t compare yourself to others who may appear to boast at their success. Sure, there is a time and place for appreciation, but know that you are tending everyday to your success in life and that your own determination, discipline and persistence will pay off. Those qualities are rich, especially for success that is inward and not visually obvious to the eye.

What defines success to you? Do you find yourself comparing your successes in life to others? Does it motivate you to do better or makes you feel hopeless when you see someone else who seems to “have it all”? Success is such a general word to begin with. People often attribute money to success, but sometimes it’s the ones that are unspoken or unseen that are the most powerful.

What is your destiny?

Sorry for my absense. I’ve had to take care of some business. It’s raining outside as we speak and I feel so tired these days. I’m already looking forward to Spring as this Winter hasn’t exactly been a winter wonderland, much to my dismay. Albeit, it we did have a freak snowfall back in late October, but my Christmas tree still wasn’t up so it doesn’t count. By the way, I still have my Christmas tree up. I love looking at it and feel sorry for the trees tossed to the side of the road; it’s like they were used for a week or so and then suddenly tossed away without any thought. Do people really go through Christmas that fast? Out of sight? Out of mind? Everyone is hurrying to the next holiday so they can buy all the decorations…which would be Valentines Day. Ugh. I actually hate that holiday and not because of what it means, but because of all the commercialization of it. Girls get upset if their man doesn’t take them out to a fancy dinner when an order in Chinese food is just as romantic with some scented candles and a good movie. Everyday should be Valentines Day in my opinion. Just like everyday should hold Christmas cheer and a giving spirit. Sometimes I wish my name was Holly.

Thinking of resolutions this year, I don’t have any. What! You may gasp. Yep. I actually have life goals I carefully think about each year and combine them with the year before. Last year was “balance” in every part of my life. This year it is to make all things “good” in my life “better”. I’m not saying things in my life that are “ok” or “meh”…things I am not excited about. I’m talking about things and people who truly mean a lot to me and making those a whole lot better. Three weeks into this thought process, it already has made a difference. Life is short. Why spend it on things and people who just drag you down all the time? You spend all your energy trying to make things better.

I leave you with this quote which my cousin, Sarah, posted on her Facebook. I think it applies with negative and positive actions. You never know how your actions will deeply affect those dear to you. So please be careful.

Until next time. With lots of love as always.

JavaGirl’s Life

‎”Watch your thoughts;
they become words.
Watch your words;
they become actions.
Watch your actions;
they become habits.
Watch your habits;
they become character.
Watch your character;
it becomes your destiny.”
– Anonymous