Why do people kiss & tell?!
I’m trying real hard to understand the reasons people feel so free to kiss and tell to complete strangers about their relationships. Not only that, but to complain about their significant others publicly. There’s an exemption, of course, in telling people of maltreatment, abuse and lessons learned from it & how not to get in that situation.
I’m talking about sitting around in a restaurant with all your girlfriends & talking smack about your boyfriend for no reason. He’s not there to defend himself & only puts your girlfriends to hate him even more. It’s ok with a close friend somewhere private where you can seek advice if there’s bumps in the road. It’s just unfair for the boyfriend to be made fun of like he’s some pinata so everyone can have a go at verbally punching him. Then to come home & kiss your boyfriend and tell him you had so much fun out with your girlfriends!
If you’re constantly complaining about your man all the time to your friends and things haven’t improved over several months or years, he is probably not right for you.
Same goes for men. They shouldn’t kiss and tell what they do in private. It’s mortifying for a woman.
Why am I ranting about this? I’m watching this Australian dating show on Netflix about four couples who broke up and they spend 3 weeks together to figure out if they want to give it a go one more time. The episode I just watched has all four couples meeting each other at a bar/restaurant. All the men are together and the women meet up somewhere else. They are all brought together to meet each other, but for the men it turns quickly to how far physically they’ve each gone with with their woman. Remember, these are complete strangers. They’re not bros. A few answered, but they kept it classy. The oldest guy there, much to my surprise, was more vivid in his answers it was cringe for me. Not surprisingly, when his woman found out she was mad!
As for the women, half of them were verbally expressing their adoration for their men. They only said positive and loving things about their man.
Call me crazy, but when I do have a boyfriend I tend to gush about how sweet and wonderful they are. Even in group settings, I like to say positive things about him because that’s how I truly feel in my heart when he’s away from me. I like to think of all the amazing things he has done for me. No one is perfect, obviously, and everybody has bad days where they are grumpy & in a bad mood. I just think if you truly care about someone why the eff are you constantly complaining about him? Especially in public? Even in social media! Doesn’t make sense and shows immaturity.
In other news, I watched the first season of Lookalikes on Netflix and never laughed so hard! I literally had amazing belly laughs and it was wonderful! British humor is just hilarious!